The Henrico woman knows and understands the fear victims live with whether their abuser uses strangulation as a means to gain power over them or other physically violent and mental abuse tactics.
“I know there’s a fear and that’s why the person may not want to say anything. They have a fear of getting choked again. You just don’t know until you live in that situation. They’re worried about where they will stay, can they make it on their own and they just don’t tell,” said Hayes.
With Virginia joining twenty-nine other states to define strangulation as a crime and making it a class 6 felony, Hayes hopes that will send a strong message.
“It makes me feel good because it needs to stop. I hope more laws are made around domestic violence to get the message out there that it’s a crime and we are here to be loved, not abused,” she added.
Safe Harbor’s Angela Verdery had this to say about the measure that takes effect Sunday.
“Because it’s such a dangerous and lethal form of assault naming it as a separate crime is just another tool for prosecutors as they prosecute cases,” said Verdery. “This says Virginia is taking this seriously and recognize that this dangerous thing is happening.”
Verdery says this matters because strangulation is a common form of physical assault experienced by victims of domestic violence. She says people should know victims can lose consciousness within 10 seconds and brain death can begin in 4 to 5 minutes.
Experts say often there is no outward sign of injury and many victims refuse medical treatment. Hayes and Verdery say the increased future risk is just too great to ignore.
“It’s going to continue. The abuse can progress to the point where death is the end result. There’s help out there and you need to tell someone. There’s help out there available twenty four-seven” said Hayes.
If you know someone who needs help because they’re a victim of domestic violence, share this number . Safe Harbor’s 24-hour hotline is 804-287-7877.